Oh sweet hedonism. In present day, we are so used to having it, having it all, having it now, if not sooner. So when all of a sudden what we have our sights on isn’t immediately in our realm, we tend to go a bit….postal.
For three years I was in the cliched big fish small pond scenario. Now, as the new kid, I was starting fresh, and with that, comes that proverbial one step forward, two step back, or the cha cha cha, depending on how you view things.
They let me out the other day (not like that) to see my first client, it was like a virgin all over again. A very big deal when you are a vendor, the first time you are allowed out in front of a client.
Flashback to summer 2013, my first big outing with Mr. Dash, Washington State bound, and Mr.Dash had enough faith in me to bring me along for a big one, to slay a dragon cross border. We won, Mt. Dash, his wit, knowledge, humour, and me, and my purple dress. So seriously, when he asked why we had won the business, well his knowledge, my dress. The dress became my sword, my secret weapon.
Three years on, though the dress is a classic, I didn’t feel right busting it out on this one, I needed to go bigger, and it was Wednesday, so I had to wear pink.
Anyway, fake it till you make it, dress the part, blah blah blah, meanwhile it’s about 50 Celsius and I’m sweating like I’m in the Bikram room. They don’t teach you how to handle the humidex in business school, perhaps they should.
Thankfully in the meeting, in a room with AC, well this fish felt right at home, but sans Mr. Dash. Habit is a funny thing, I was so ready to go down the route of humour, when I had to literally bite my tongue and sit on my hands, and then I realized, you have to earn the relationship. You can’t just expect it to be immediate. This was going to take time, I had to be patient, something else to add to my list for my year of firsts.
And for me obviously, these days it is all about the work stuff. The immersion, the culture shift, the fitting it, or rather finding my footing, my niche in the professional sense. But that being said, it does not mean I have forgotten about the single girl struggle, that is all too real.
I was reminded of the dynamics of dating, the other afternoon at the Amsterdam Pub, 37 degrees, Jays for the win, and I need a drink. Sitting bar side is a fellow Toroto walking enthusiast, a couple of innings and drinks later, we start talking men and dating. She decided to give the online dating thing a try, a struggle because she said, it’s time consuming, why can’t we just skip all the awkward chit chat, the getting to know each other, and just get into the relationship? And she’s not alone here, most of us given the choice, would fast forward to a spot of comfort and ease, rather than muddle through the preliminary stuff. She ends of connecting with someone she thinks seems worthy. They meet, they chat, drink, share a bite, then the conversation moves from the surface ( part of town you live in, what you do) to family, so…. he says are you ok with dating someone who has a kid? Not one to be caught off guard she says, yep all good. Oh great, so I’m a dad, I’ve got a 14 month old. Pardon? Yeah, my wife and I split, I couch surf, it’s a work in progress.
This dude, hedonist. Ambitious but a hedonist. Honour your place in your life. Not the time to be online dating, maybe improve thee old credit score and find a place to live? Just a suggestion.
Nurture the journey. You can’t rush a good thing.