pocket scarves & handkerchiefs.

A style classic, most notably sported by men in their latter years, lost on some younger generations, unless you work in the finance district in a major city, is the pocket scarf. Such a rarity, I had been shocked to see this worn by Mr. Dash the other day. He mentioned he was off to get his photo taken, ‘for what? ‘ I asked ‘The top 60 over 60?’ ‘Yes’ he replied, ‘get them before they croke’.

The pocket scarf, leading with class and style. I love it. Why? Well, it oozes charm, so distinguished. A trend us Vancouver girls love so much in fact, that 604P actually has a long standing Facebook post of men in suits, and the fan favourites were those who jacked it up, and looked oh so polished with added accessories such as the pocket scarf. The Facebook post has been evolving for over a year, and from time to time I revisit it,  because it’s just so lovely to look at. And no, 604P is not going to add you as a friend, she is every exclusive.Stay tuned for the Saturday post by the way, it is going to be all about 604P.

Anyway, back to the pocket scarf, sometimes, we aren’t quite sure when it is necessary to jack up our style, our image and our assets. It can be a slippery slope from nothing, straight past our own version of lagom into overkill, this applys to style, what we lead with, (our pocket scarf) and to our insurance, or rather what we have in our back pocket (our handkerchief).

A question I hear all to often in my day job: How much is enough? What should I have in my back pocket? Now of course this leads us to assets, the coin factor, not only for the inevitable retirement, but also for that unforeseen emergency. And more importantly, people ask, what should I be doing  in this moment to prepare? These are loaded questions of course, because there are so many factors that come into play. However, I read most recently that one should have approximately 3 month salary saved, or approx $41,000 in a TFSA in the event of a crisis/emergency.

Great recommendation, but the reality? We are not prepared. We aren’t carrying a handkerchief. Over half of Canadians have less than $10,000 in savings.

So to be direct,  when it comes to dating and relationships, what is in your pocket? Are you polished? Are you all show with the pocket scarf, or have you balanced things out with a handkerchief in your back pocket?

Think about the purpose of both items, the pocket scarf looks good, aesthetics, it is a symbol. And a handkerchief, others can’t see it, but if you carry one,  you know it is there, and this serves a purpose, a peace of mind. Pocket scarves are sexy, handkerchiefs are not, but they are your safety net. So, ask yourself, what is going to serve you best? Do you carry the added assurance of a handkerchief?

Now if we get to the point where we are potentially in crisis, what is our strategy? Do we have a handkerchief to pull out?

Sometimes, we aren’t so polished. And if we have been out of the dating game for awhile, this is a normal situation to be in. No judgement. As example, a friend of a friend, Bubba Lee, in his own post divorce world, middle aged and decidedly ready to get back down to being frisky with the ladies.

As things left on the shelf for longer than they should, sometimes this means the equipment when put to use might not be in the same condition it once way. He’s ready to go with date number one, an absolute stunner,and understandably nervous.So the first date goes so well, Bubba has actually got the prospect to agree to a nightcap at his house. Points for Bubba. But now it is really go time.  He had gotten his hands on some Viagra, and he felt ready,so literally with the blue pill in his back pocket it was time to pop one. But, having had a drink or two, realised that taking one whole pill might be too much, and could be a slippery slope way past lagom into the ER. The solution? Take half. However, without anything to cut it with, and in a pinch, with the lady in waiting, he used his shoe. The pill shattered in the bathroom, waste not want not, as he then proceeded to snort what was left of it. Ah, yes, so retro. So there you go, Viagra, and sans MacGyver tool, just use the shoe, and snort. Disco inferno.

I heard commentary the other day that stated, given the market volatility, it was essentially encouraging bankers to stay boring, don’t be glamorous. In other words, put away the pocket scarf. And maybe, sometimes we need to do this. But keep the handkerchief. Unless you are like Bubba Lee. I think he should invest in the pocket scarf, keep the Viagra, but maybe half the Viagra before the dates, so you’re not in a bind with the shoe in your bathroom.

I think we must always lead with style, own our pocket scarf, especially for those of us getting back in the game. But, of course, invest in the the handkerchief, for your back pocket, because this will be your true assurance. No one will suspect you have it, but you know it is there, and regardless of style, there is nothing better than having peace of mind, or a snort of Viagra.